How to Overcome Jealousy, the Evil Root {Women in the Word}

I have a problem.  I look around the blogger world and find sometimes I just don't measure up.  No matter how hard I try, I just can't keep up.   Basicly, it's hard to be someone I'm not.  Yet, daily I find myself getting caught in the trap of comparison.  Jealousy creeps in and before I know it, I've grown a field of evil roots.  Yes, it's hard to admit.  I'm writing this post because I feel it's something many of us struggle with, yet the one thing we fail to admit.  

When I was in high school choir, I was jealous of the girl who sang better than me.  

When I became a Christian, I was jealous of the woman who knew more Bible than me. 

When I attended homeschool co-op groups, I was jealous of other moms who had many children, because I only had one.  

Do you ever get jealous?   Jeolousy is an evil root to deal with, but it can be defeated.   The Bible tells us in James 3:16, "For where there are jealousy and selfish ambition, there will be disharmony and every foul practice".  Jealousy brings about other sinful habits and curses in our lives.  We have no peace or shalom when we harbor jealousy.  How do we overcome this evil root?  By destroying it at the root and making sure it doesn't shoot up again.  We must change our thinking and intentionally execute a strategy.  If you're struggling with jealousy today, here are 5 ways you can overcome jealousy in your life! 

1.  Be honest with yourself.  Admit you have a jealousy problem.  Confess it to God and ask forgiveness.   
James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

2.  Don't compare yourself to others.  Instead put your focus on Jesus.  When our eyes look away from Him and start looking around at others, we become like Peter.  Peter walked on the water, but began to sink when he took his eyes off of his Master.  You are unique and special in Jesus' eyes.  His approval is all that matters.  When you're looking into Jesus' eyes,  you can see yourself the way God sees you.  All insecurities vanish, when we remember we are a daughter of the King.  
Hebrews 12:1-2 Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles.  And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith . . . ". 

3.  Rejoice over the success of others.  Instead of feeling sorry for yourself for what others have and you don't, be happy for them.  We must not be selfish.  One day, you will be celebrating a success, and will appreciate others celebrating with you.  This can be hard for women especially,  but complimenting another woman for her success brings true joy to yours and her heart.  It's a win win situation.  
Romans 12:15 When others are happy, be happy with them.  If they are sad, share their sorrow.  

4.  Be an encourager of others.  Jealousy can drive a wedge between relationships.  It's important to keep encouraging one another.  Instead of allowing jealousy to win, fight back with an encouraging word, or action.  Have you heard of the phrase, "kill them with kindness"?  Well, I say, "Kill jealousy with kindness!".    
Hebrews 10:24  Think of ways to encourage one another to outbursts of love and good deeds.  

5.   Continually evaluate your inward heart.  What helps me is studying Bible verses to keep my heart where it's suppose to be.  When I have the Word of God fresh in my mind, I can choose to make better decisions about my feelings and actions.   
Romans 7: 22  I love God's law with all my heart.  

2 Corinthians 4: 16  This is why we do not lose courage. Though our outer self is heading for decay, our inner self is being renewed daily.

Romans 12:2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

Jealousy may be an evil root, but with God's strategy, we can conquer it daily.  

How are some ways you deal with jealousy?  

Blessings and Shalom, 

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