This weekend my family had a blessed time celebrating my parent's 50th wedding anniversary. Let me take you down memory lane. The year was 1963. It was a beautiful autumn day in November, fifty years ago. My parents vowed their love to each other and began the unknown journey of love and marriage. I can picture them so young, living in a time that was springing forth growth. Come on, it was the sixties. Hello? To think that my parents have lived to see this day, let alone persevered to stay married. Yes. Stay married. It's a true blessing. A rare find.
It is very rare to find married couples who are even married 15 or 20 years in this day where marriage is just a word. Many young people in their twenties today are finding that they don't want to marry because they have seen the deterioration of marriage all around them. It's very sad. The lie of the enemy, Satan is telling many that marriage does not last. Well, in my parent's case, it does. My husband's parents marriage also lasted. They were married for 61 years! Wow! Our children need to see examples of married couples like these who have committed to making a covenant last.
Now, I'm not saying anything to ruffle your feathers if divorce has been part of your life or in your family. I understand all situations are sensitive and different. I write this post in as much love yet with much boldness and conviction. I am just saying that marriage in God's eyes means so much more! It's a covenant for life.
How does a marriage lasts forever?
God loves marriage. His vision of marriage is described in the Bible and used in comparison to our relationship with Jesus. We are like a beautiful bride waiting for our King to come back for us. I love that lovely image.
Marriage takes work and commitment. It was created for growth. Marriage is like a tiny seed that needs to be watered and cultivated in order for fruit to be established.
Ecclesiastes 4:12 says, Moreover, an attacker may defeat someone who is alone, but two can resist him; and a three-stranded cord is not easily broken.
The three-stranded cord can be a symbol of a marriage with God holding it together. God the Father, Husband, and Wife all together is like a strong three-stranded cord. When you take away a cord and only have two strands, the rope is not strong enough to hold anything.
God has to be the center of all marriages.
My parents were not Christians until 30 years into their marriage. My siblings and I did not grow up seeing a healthy marriage with Jesus in the center let alone in our home. However, I had to learn along with my husband what it meant to have Jesus Lord over our lives and marriage. The best part was when our parents decided to follow Jesus and make Him Lord of their lives. Through the years, good times and bad.
"When Jesus resides in the home, love is there.
When Jesus is welcome into a marriage, love is there." - Rosenda V
It's time to enjoy the ride married couples! Marriage is like a ferris wheel. You go up and down. It's fun, it's exhilarating, but soon the ride is over before you know it. The years go by so quickly and soon one day, as you look deeply into your spouses eyes, you both realize you've grown old together.
Those petty things you argued about in the past, pet-peeves, silly and selfish things. At that moment, we don't think about that. All we see is our love.
As I was thinking about this post, I wanted to also share some words of wisdom about marriage. I put together a list of what I've learned as a daughter of parents who have been married 50 years!
The 15 Things I've Learned From My Parent's Marriage of 50 Years!
1. Invite God to be the center of your marriage and keep Him there.
2. The wedding is one day, but marriage is a lifetime.
3. Never Quit- when times get tough, deal with them and work them out.
4. Beauty and youth fade away, but love grows.
5. Marriage is a covenant and a final decision.
There are no other options- it's all or nothing baby!
6. Children are a blessing, yet they will leave one day.
Keep the marriage priority at all times.
7. Time flies by so fast, enjoy your spouse while it lasts.
8. Husbands love your wives and Wives submit to your husbands.
9. Prayer is the key to keeping the marriage covered and protected. Pray for your spouse.
10. Love your spouse through mountain high or valley low.
11. Invest in your marriage-the grass is not greener on the other side. . .
water your own grass.
12. Date night! Married couples need time to themselves.
13. Dream together, pray together, trust the Lord together.
14. Use trials to grow closer together, not farther apart.
15. Forgive, kiss and make-up always. No excuses.